I have struggled with getting good news and wanting to share it immediately! My innate emotion has been to share my happiness as I have endured constant disappointment, for years. Looking deeper into my desire to share immediately, feels like a trauma response. It feels like I have had to share my greatness, otherwise people won't see it. That has felt like my history in most of my relationships: romantic, work, or friendships. I have felt like I had to prove my self-worth, I had to "show and tell" like my nine-year-old self in elementary school in front of my 3rd grade classroom. Can anyone relate?
I had been held captive by my own thoughts and processes. When one has a battle going on that no one can see, that weighs heavy on one's character. Imagine feeling that you are great, but you hadn't produced anything (that anyone knows about), or told anyone, of an accomplishment. Questions of doubt and worry could sink in, feeling like you need those accolades to validate you.
I had to realize that even if no one can see what I am doing, how I am progressing, how I am making changes within my own lifestyle, that is okay. My value is not increased or diminished by someone else's opinion of me... or you!
What if I suggested another idea to you... Think about your unspoken accomplishments and now view them as your stepping-stones and "training" for your own specific journey. Sometimes, we need to get out of our own heads and realize that we have conquered "a thing" that no one knows about. This is a good thing! It is okay to celebrate this alone! Sometimes, that is the best and safest place to celebrate. Safe in the regard of you are allowing yourself to feel emotions, sit in the process and build your own self confidence and esteem.
There is power in the perfect timing of your announcement moment. I share that because if it is shared prematurely, you can risk ridicule that you are not prepared for. Being prepared means you are mentally mature to brush it off and keep going. If you experienced negative comments, as a result, you could shrink and dim your light. This can allow you to make those negative thoughts seem true - THEY'RE NOT! You may feel the urge to never create again, if you don't receive the outcome you had expected. You could risk the announcement being too soon and the audience is not receptive as you had hoped.
This is something that I heard from DeVon Franklin (Google him, or @devonfranklin on Instagram), I'm paraphrasing but the gist was that God not only prepares you and gets you ready, He also prepares your audience. Your audience has to be receptive to you and/or what you are delivering to them.
View this moment as strength, as following protocol, as preparation. Everything has an appropriate time and place to be presented.
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